Part 2: The Later Years
The next big part of life that I started to de-clutter was right before and right after I got married. I de-cluttered my debt right before I got married and was thankfully able to enter into marriage debt free. The theme of our wedding was SIMPLE yet elegant. After marriage began, I de-cluttered my husband’s old open accounts (from the credit report) by closing them. I also began to let go of items in his/our house to make it more like our own place. In addition, each time we move, I clean out stuff we just don’t use. Moving is a time to start fresh.
Then, a few years ago after a series of events, my husband and I came to the realization that our marriage was going down a heavy, downward spiral. We had tried to ‘fix’ our marriage and the grief of our miscarriages by adding more children through foster parenting. This was not a healthy decision for us. At the time, we were also undergoing a house renovation, carrying two houses financially, had several bank accounts open due to the renovation, both working in our respective practices, parenting our daughter, and life was just in complete OVERWHELM! It knew it was time to simplify and MINIMIZE yet again. I keep coming back to minimalism.
Being in this spiral, we knew something had to change. We decided to go on a couples retreat at Onsite Workshops. Here we got really clear that we could no longer be foster parents. While we had good intentions, we were doing it for all the wrong reasons. It was not a good fit. And so this began a journey back to simplifying our lives again. We came home from that retreat and made a loving plan for our two foster sons. They were moved to a new placement two weeks later and have recently been adopted by that sweet family. They are in the best, right place for them.
We had gotten caught back into the swirl of stuff as a way of dealing with our grief and to manage the stress of a home renovation. It was NOT WORKING!
What is the CLUTTER covering up in your life? What is just not working for you?
Until Part 3…Bethie